WHAT IS THIS MASTER CLASS ABOUT?
We all have a mother. It is the first and most important relationship we experience as human beings. She provides us with love, security, nourishment, and much more. A baby is helpless on its own and dependent on its mother's love and care. The bond grows on both sides with every comforting lullaby, as well as with every smile the baby returns. It is the first and most formative relationship in which we learn unconditional love. This shapes our character, our behavior, and our ability to form relationships in life. The complexity of motherhood, as well as the individual needs of each person, challenge this relationship as the child grows up. There are basic needs that are socially ensured by social guidelines, but there is no one-size-fits-all blueprint or guide for what we today call ideal parenting. This is because every person is unique in their nature, thoughts, and actions and has individual needs accordingly. It is therefore impossible to ensure that a child always gets exactly what they need at any given moment.
WE WILL GROW UP SOONER OR LATER ANYWAY
But the way we experience relationships still depends on that first formative encounter with our mother. For some, this goes well, while for others it proves more difficult. Women in particular are more likely to have a difficult relationship with their mothers. Perhaps this is because the mother is the female role model in the family and their own ideas differ from this image of womanhood. But perhaps it is also because puberty, as a process of separation, simply leads to a desire to do things differently from one's parents. And ultimately, perhaps it is also because the mother herself was raised by a mother who was never able to give her unconditional love.
THE COLLECTIVE MOTHER WOUND IS VERY OLD
War generations, for example, were more concerned with survival and were usually unable to process the terrible experiences or circumstances in which they had to live. There was no space for this, let alone the resources to mindfully accompany emotional processes. The powerlessness and ignorance about the importance of holistic health were too great. So when trauma is involved, and humanity has accumulated quite a bit of it over the last 2000 years, it is often unconsciously passed on across generations. This can lead to a lack of trust within the family to show vulnerability, communicate needs, or express love. Ultimately, it shapes an entire generation or even society as a whole, where it is "normal" to suppress feelings, "love" conditionally, and put performance and power first in order to gain recognition.
Of course, each of us has a different story, but the wounds of our inner children often stem from the same source. Namely, this intergenerational, collective mother wound. What this means is the suppressed pain and trauma of being a woman, which is passed on from a mother to her children. Women who have been conditioned to feel inferior in a male-dominated world. It is the feeling of being unworthy and the resulting dysfunctional coping mechanism that is passed on from generation to generation to children. Daughters as well as sons can experience and pass on mother wounds.
HOW DID YOU BECOME THE PERSON YOU ARE TODAY?
Most people have or had a parent who literally forced them into "mastery." This may have manifested itself through physical, psychological, or emotional abuse by a parental figure. Often, it is narcissistic traits that cause such toxic relationship dynamics. In other words, the person is completely unaware of how traumatized they themselves are and that it is their own trauma speaking, not them.
Perhaps you remember what it was like as a child when you didn't feel safe at home with one of your parents? When you're afraid of doing something wrong or saying something wrong. When you walk around the house on eggshells so as not to trigger an outburst of anger. When you carry your parents' emotional baggage without being asked and just long for peace and harmony. Common defense mechanisms include people pleasing, not confiding in anyone about problems but dealing with them yourself, suppressing your own needs, developing a high sensitivity to your parents' needs and moods, and much more.
All these protective shields that we built up as children are still with us as adults. They prevent us from being authentic, from having trusting relationships, and from receiving sincere love. In any case, it can be really difficult to truly understand and accept your mother or father. Because I have received so much positive feedback on the topic of the mother wound and see how individual it is for everyone, I would like to open up a space for it. And I want to do so in the form of a master class. With this new master class, I want to help you improve your relationship with your mother or father. But above all, I want to strengthen your relationship with yourself. Because when you are crystal clear about how wonderful you are, what values and needs you have, then you can stand up for yourself and have healthy relationships.
ABOUT ME
I am not a psychologist. I am a coach, a teacher, and someone who has been affected by these toxic dynamics myself. It took me many years to figure out what happened in my childhood that still had a negative impact on me as an adult, making me feel insecure and limiting me. My mother wound was my greatest teacher, and my drive for self-empowerment and freedom set me on the path I am on today. I am so grateful for that, and I want my work to contribute to putting an end to this collective wound. The age of oppression is over. We are the ones who can now reshape and co-create relationships. We have the knowledge, the time, and the necessary distance from all the trauma in our ancestral lines. We are the ones who shape the younger generations. Let us be positive examples. Let us be role models for a new narrative of how relationships can be lived today. A world where vulnerability is a strength, where love is above being right, and togetherness is above ego.
I look forward to seeing you!
What? Letting go through breathing and coaching
In this 2-hour online session, you will create space for your feelings through transformative breathing exercises, engage in dialogue, and recognize and let go of old relationship patterns through coaching exercises . Regain your strength and create the relationships you desire! This workshop is suitable for all levels and genders. I look forward to seeing you!
When? Sunday , October 16, from 11 a.m. to 1 p.m.
Where? Online class via Zoom
Bring along: Writing materials, comfortable clothing.
Price: €33 (if you don't have PayPal and would like to pay another way, please send me an email email.)