Goodbye self-doubt!

6 tips for greater clarity and self-confidence

Let's be honest, is what you're doing enough? Are you really good enough at your job? Shouldn't you be further ahead than others by now?

Do you recognize these questions from your daily negative self-talk?
Then it's very likely that you're suffering from imposter syndrome.

People withimpostor syndromehave a distorted self-perception anddownplay their ownabilities. This makes them feel like impostors or frauds, but in reality they are the ultimate"underachievers" because they don't believe in themselves.

You may not believe it, but I used to havea lot of self-doubt.I was thequeen of "impostor syndrome"!

Today, I'll explainhow chronic self-doubt manifests itself,where it comes from, andwhat exercises can help you.Feel free to send me your feedback on how impostor syndrome shows up in your life. We are all in this together!

Chronic self-doubt leads to long-term self-sabotage behaviors such as:

COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
In my 20s, I had a really cool and challenging management job. But I thought I only had it because my boss feltsorryfor me and was being nice to me. I was constantlyafraid that my team would think I wasincompetent. I constantlycomparedmyself to others, lost myself ina mindset of inadequacy, and threw myself intoperfectionism. I never told anyonebecause I was so ashamed of it.Even celebrities often report similar mental blocks. For example, an actress who couldn't enjoywinning an Oscar because she thought it might have been amistake.Feeling it? You are not alone!

PERFECTIONISM
A former client of mine is a verysuccessfultop manager. She always excelled with good grades at school. At university, she wastop of her classwith a1.0 GPA. Theday before she was due to hand in her thesis, she almost had anervous breakdownbecause she was convincedshe wouldfail! Unbelievable, right? But thesefearsandself-critical thoughtsare soreal andblockeven the most talented people. Do you also tend to see the mistakes or what needs improvement?Welcome to the club :)

PEOPLE PLEASING
Another client was soeagerforexternalrecognitionand never wanted to rock the boat that she always agreed with other people. She adapted heropinionslike achameleonto the statements of the person she was talking to. She lost herself, becameinauthentic,and thus increasinglyinsecure. Highlyempathetic and sensitive peoplein particular develop this ability early in childhood. If you know what it feels like to "walk on eggshells"in your parents' house,for example,then you are also a people pleaser.

PROCRASTINATION
The widespreadtendency to procrastinateis also a common symptom that I have been very familiar with since my school days. I thought—no kidding—that I couldn't do anything really well, except maybe cleaning! Becausecleaning was my number one distraction from the actual work.Creating external orderhelps you gain a short-term feeling of control over the situation. But theinternalpressureto complete the taskincreaseswith every passing minute. I got everything done, but it was alwaysat the expense of my health.Does this sound familiar?Then you're also a last-minute performer. 
 

WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER

It was only years later that I learned I wasn't alone in "overstating" or "understating" my abilities. It also affects men, but especially women who work in a highly competitive environment and are highly sensitive. Approximately 70% say they struggle with this in their careers. And 50% say they deal with it on a weekly basis.

POSSIBLE HEALTH CONSEQUENCES

It is important to me that this is discussed because so many people suffer from it. The longer it is kept a big secret, the heavier the burden becomes in the long term. At some point, I became depressed, and I know that this distorted mindset , among other things, contributed to it . It has been scientifically proven that, in addition to such mental health issues, sleep disorders, digestive problems, and burnout can also be effects of impostor syndrome. We live in a time when no one has to suffer anymore—especially not at work!

WHERE IS THE LOVE?

When I look at all the clients I have worked with and consider my own story, I see that imposter syndrome is, in the broadest sense, an extreme lack of self-love. You don't value your own personality, abilities, and talents. Or you prefer to glorify others instead of celebrating yourself more!

WHERE DOES IT COME FROM?

Much of the pressure to perform comes from our social system. We live in a capitalist society, and companies work linearly toward economic goals. Faster, further, higher. Patriarchal structures have led employees to make themselves small in front of their bosses for generations. But much of this comes directly from families. Beliefsare passed down through generations in a family line and lived without being critically questioned. True to the motto , "That's just how it's always been."

GOOD NEWS!

The good news is: you don't have to live with this inner shit storm! You can change this for yourself (and energetically for your whole family)! Recognizing and dissolving limiting beliefs is a major focus in my one-on-one coaching with my clients. When your inner struggle stops, you will have an incredible amount of strength and potential at your disposal! Then you can enterthe next leveland courageously realize your biggest dreams.

Here are 6 game-changing exercises that I usually only share with my coachees:

1. TALK ABOUT IT
Approach friends or colleagues you trust and discuss it with them. The more honest you are, the more your counterpart will feel invited to share their insecurities as well. This is what I expect from New Work: a work environment where people treat each other openly and transparently as equals. Top-down and competitive thinking are a thing of the past. The new era wants to see us co-create in community—for the benefit of all.Mother Earth needs us!

2. CHANGE YOUR MINDSET
Shift from critical self-talk to more compassionate and encouraging inner dialogues. Note: You're not just replacing all negative thoughts with positive ones. It's about finding a balance where you're fair to yourself, staying open and curious instead of judgmental and critical. For example: 
I made a mistake and ruined everything. >>>Making mistakes is desirable. I have gained valuable insights and can do better next time.

3. WRITE DOWN YOUR SUCCESSES
If you are very determined, you often get stuck thinking about the future. You try to complete your project in a solution-oriented manner. But in doing so, you often forget everything you have already achieved in the past. So make a list of all the small and big successes you have already achieved in your life. Things you are proud of and that you have done well.

4. BREATHE, BREATHE, BREATHE
When you notice that you are being dragged down by negative thoughts, get out of your head and into your body. The quickest way to do this is through conscious breathing patterns. They allow you to calm your nervous system, harmonize your blood pressure, and center yourself in no time. Breathe in deeply through your mouth and exhale with a sigh. Do this as often as you need to in order to release pressure immediately.

5. LOVE YOURSELF
How often do you receive compliments from people and simply dismiss them as insincere platitudes? There is nothing more effective for truly accepting recognition in your heart than finally starting to be loving towards yourself. Treat yourself as someone who means a lot to you. Be your own best friend. Perhaps a mindfulness exercise will help you with this. Feel free to try one of mymeditations.
 

6. DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
As you may have realized from this newsletter, we are all in this together. So you can assume that everyone has their own baggage to carry around. Therefore, practice not taking other people's reactions and actions personally or overestimating them. If something irritates you, don't be afraid to ask what was meant by it in order to clarify the situation immediately and stop dwelling on it.

Unfortunately, overcoming imposter syndrome is not something that happens overnight . Patience is key on this journey , because patience builds self-confidence. My one-on-one coaching is perfect for this process. What makes my work special is that I combine holistic health and personal development. Body, mind, and emotions must be in balance for the change processes to be effective on all levels. That's why I always work with my clients for at least four months. It takes time for integration, reflection, and realignment.

How would you feel if you were free from negative thought patterns and could easily make healthy decisions for yourself?

How would you feel if you were so connected to yourself and your feelings that you could easily communicate your needs and desires?

How would you feel if you could recognize your strengths and talents and create a life that fulfills you from the heart?

How would you like to be able to use the energy you would otherwise spend on doubt to realize your biggest dreams?

How would you like to explore all this and much more in a confidential 1-on-1 setting with me as your coach?

Exactly, that's what I'm here for! Just give it a try and get to know me in a free initial consultation.

You are the most important person in your life.
Be worthy of yourself!