WHAT IS THIS MASTER CLASS ABOUT?
We all have a mother. It is the first and most important relationship we experience as human beings. She provides us with love, security, nourishment, and much more. A baby is helpless on its own and dependent on its mother's love and care. The bond grows on both sides with every comforting lullaby, as well as with every smile the baby returns. It is the first and most formative relationship in which we learn unconditional love. This shapes our character, our behavior, and our ability to form relationships in life. The complexity of motherhood, as well as the individual needs of each person, challenge this relationship as the child grows up. There are basic needs that are socially ensured by social guidelines, but there is no one-size-fits-all blueprint or guide for what we today call ideal parenting. This is because every person is unique in their nature, thoughts, and actions and has individual needs accordingly. It is therefore impossible to ensure that a child always gets exactly what they need at any given moment.
WE ALL CARRY THE PATTERNS OF OUR ANCESTORS WITHIN US
Sooner or later, we all grow up somehow. But the way we experience relationships still depends on that first formative encounter with our mother and, of course, on all the other people who accompany us as we grow up. For some, this goes well, while for others it proves more difficult. Most people have or had a parent who literally forced them into "mastery." This may have manifested itself through physical, psychological, or emotional abuse by a parental figure. Often, it is narcissistic traits that cause such toxic relationship dynamics. In other words, the person is completely unaware of how traumatized they themselves are and that it is their own trauma speaking and not themselves. Some of these dynamics are even tolerated by society, and so our cells store the experiences as the norm.
So perhaps you still subconsciously believe that...
you are not good enough if you were constantly criticized instead of being supported in your individuality.
you have to pursue a career or prove yourself to someone in order to gain recognition.
your needs and desires are not a priority if you were often neglected or even ignored in the past.
You have to save other people because your mother was overwhelmed and stuck in victimhood.
you have to live up to other people's expectations because, as a child, you were constantly controlled by a control freak.
Your mother does not love you because she was unable to maintain an emotionally nurturing space for herself, you, and others.
you are not lovable because you have not received enough attention and appreciation.
We all carry certain beliefs deeply embedded in our DNA, and as a result, we unconsciously create situations that reinforce this old belief system.
You can recognize this by the fact that you are repeatedly drawn to people who may act out controlling or manipulative patterns on you, as you learned to do as a child. Perhaps also by the fact that you think you have to fight for the love and recognition of others. Or by the fact that you suffer from imposter syndrome and tend to people-please, be a perfectionist, procrastinate, or constantly compare yourself to others.
All of this prevents us from being authentic, having trusting relationships, and receiving sincere love. Perhaps you need to accept that your mother or your family will never change. The only thing you can change is yourself, and in doing so, you break the eternal cycle of unconscious dynamics in your entire ancestral line.
It's time to break these cycles, let down your defenses, and heal your wounds. It's time to be yourself.
Because I have received so much positive feedback on the topic of the mother wound and see how individual it is for everyone, I would like to open up a space for it. And I want to do so in the form of a master class. With this new master class, I want to help you improve your relationship with your mother or father. But above all, I want to strengthen your relationship with yourself. Because when you are clear about how wonderful you are, what values and needs you have, then you can stand up for yourself and have healthy relationships. The question is and always will be: Who are you really? Who are you without the external critics and without the internal critic? What remains of you then, and what treasure lies hidden within?
ABOUT ME
I am not a psychologist. I am a coach, a teacher, and someone who has been affected by these toxic dynamics myself. It took me many years to figure out what happened in my childhood that still had a negative impact on me as an adult, making me feel insecure and limiting me. My mother wound was my greatest teacher, and my drive for self-empowerment and freedom set me on the path I am on today. I am so grateful for that, and I want my work to contribute to putting an end to this collective wound. The age of oppression is over. We are the ones who can now reshape and co-create relationships. We have the knowledge, the time, and the necessary distance from all the trauma in our ancestral lines. We are the ones who shape the younger generations. Let us be positive examples. Let us be role models for a new narrative of how relationships can be lived today. A world where vulnerability is a strength, where love is above being right, and togetherness is above ego.
I look forward to seeing you!
What? Letting go through breathing and coaching
In this 2-hour online session, you will create space for your feelings through transformative breathing exercises, engage in dialogue, and recognize and let go of old relationship patterns through coaching exercises . Regain your strength and create the relationships you desire! This workshop is suitable for all levels and genders. I look forward to seeing you!
When? Saturday , October 29, from 7 to 9 p.m.
Where? Online class via Zoom
Bring along: Writing materials, comfortable clothing.
Price: €33